Horizontal Communication now on UDEMY

There’s a brand new Horizontal Communication Beginner’s course on UDEMY that can help you transform family and SDE facilitation relationships with a few important shifts in perspective and communication habits. You can find out more at www.horizontalcommunication.org or go direct to the UDEMY preview here

So that nobody is excluded from being able to use these tools, merely for financial reasons, if you need a discount coupon in order to be able to access this course, please contact theshiftwillcome@gmail.com

This course beginning on the 1st August 2021 6pm SAST/12noon EST/4pm UTC will be tailored towards people transitioning into Self-Directed Education. This will actively support not only those who have recently begun unschooling, or are about to start work in an SDE facility or parents signing their child up in an SDE setting for the first time, but also teachers who are still embedded in coercive education environments who want to bring what light they can, as well as those who long to plot out a career-change for themselves but are not sure how to begin.

Due to the practical support for personal circumstances included in this course, spaces are limited and booking is essential.
A free Info Session will take place on Sat 31st August at 6pm SAST/12noon EST/4pm UTC

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Recording of the SDE for PDA Intro Session
SDE for PDA – PDA is the neurotype that probably finds coercive education hardest of all – and customising our facilitation to accommodate PDAers takes our skills to gold standard.

A course of four consecutive Sunday sessions of 90mins each will begin on Sun 4th July 2021 at 6pm SAST.

Whether there is a young person that you support in SDE who struggles with ‘inexplicable’ explosive/implosive meltdowns under pressure or whether you just want to take your learning to the next level, you can sign up, get more details, or arrange to join a free info advance session (to help you decide whether it’s for you) on Fri 2nd July by filling in the contact form of this site, or emailing theshiftwillcome@gmail.com



NEWSFLASH! In July 21 Bianca Geburek will facilitate her second round of a three-month-course based on translations of Je’annas trainings in Self-Directed Education facilitation in German: 

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Register for the free info evening by sending a message to mail[at]herzton.click or visit the Herzton (Heart’s tone) website


21st, 28th February, 7th March

2021 Share The Love

3 week mini-course, 5pmSAST


Enrich your relationships with yourself, partner, children, parents, work colleagues, world.

$75usd pp, discounts for partners and those refreshing.

Horizontal Communication is more than a communication technique. It’s also an attitude to life and human-to-human connection that opens the way for deeper, richer living. Practically, it’s a way to communicate more effectively and transform conflict into creative opportunity. On another level it’s a way to empower ourselves to live the more beautiful life we sense is possible, regardless of what’s ‘happening’.


Self-Directed Education Facilitator Development

Helping The Butterfly Hatch – Facilitator Training

Most of us by now have heard that helping a butterfly as it struggles out of its chrysalis can cripple it for life. This is also a good analogy for what can happen to learning when teaching gets in the way. (Ever wondered why so many schooled children end up hating maths?)

However, the answer is not as simple as “doing nothing”.

The way that you interact with a young person in Self-Directed Education (SDE) and support their process can have a big impact. This course is designed to build your confidence so that you can become an SDE optimiser – instead of a well-intentioned saboteur.

Whether you are Unschooling, or facilitating within a Sudbury or ALC or other setting, or just want to develop your theory and practice of SDE, this course can support you as you hatch your own wings.

Building on the success of the previous groups, Je’anna is ready to offer a condensed intensive introduction to SDE Facilitation – Nov 2020, Dec 2020 and Jan 2021.

Please sign up on Patreon HERE or contact Je’anna on theshiftwillcome@gmail.com to discuss your options

Horizontal Communication

Feedback from Horizontal Communication Workshops

“The awareness of HC has allowed me to be more accepting, open and understanding of others as well as, accepting, forgiving and understanding of myself.” – Veronique Breugelmans

“Every human being should be taught HC! It’s imperative!” – Taryn Helper

“This is a great, condensed overview of the horizontal communication with practical tips and ‘how to’ ” – Lourina Botes

About Je’anna’s Horizontal Communication Workshops

Horizontal Communication is communication that seeks to connect people in genuine mutual compassion and release, rather than staying trapped in power struggles. It builds more satisfying relationships, and bringsabout fresh, creative solutions to situations that used to feel stuck.

Many of us don’t realise that the way we communicate is shaped by a ‘vertical’ culture of domination. Almost all of us come from an ancestry of domination – whether our own particular ancestors were the dominators or the dominated. When we use the resulting heritage vertical communication strategies currently normal in our world, to try to express love and care, or to try to solve problems, this often backfires, and we’re left feeling bewildered: where did things go wrong?

Horizontal Communication can empower us to sustainably connect with those we love, as well as to transform interactions with ‘enemies’.

Horizontal Communication problem solving does not identify a perpetrator and a victim, but looks at mismatches of underlying needs, and seeks to replace solutions that meet the needs of only some parties, with dynamic win-win solutions that come closer to meeting everyone’s needs.

These workshops offer theoretical insight and practical tools for transforming lived experience.

You can find out more about Horizontal Communication HERE

Screen Time

Feedback from The Screen Time Webinar Series –

“The webinar helped me realize that my frustration with my son’s screen time was because I wasn’t getting to spend as much time with him as before. Since schools closed due to Covid, we weren’t chatting in the car on the way to and from school any more. I was pressuring him to spend more time with the family after dinner, essentially demanding to get my needs for relatedness met on my terms.

I realized that I had been ignoring many opportunities to connect with him about the games he was playing. I would check in on him from time to time during the day and he would eagerly tell me about the new guns or levels he’d mastered. However, I always cut this short since I was on a coffee break and had work to get back to. I now plan to drop in on him when I have more time to spare. I really think this will make a big difference to our relationship and I’m looking forward to the positive results.

Thanks very much for this insight Je’anna!” Graeme, Parent, South Africa

“The webinar was fantastic. You handled the size of the group and the balance between participation, self-reflection and education masterfully. I learned a lot from your prompts and content, and learned great ways to improve my own online facilitation skills. After just one session, I’m already feeling more positive about and capable of productively working with my kids to find screen time solutions that empower and serve all of us and our relationships together. Can’t wait to learn and grow more. Thank you!” – Rhona Berens, PhD, PCC, California, USA. Parent to a 9 yo and 12 yo, and Positive Discipline Parent Educator.
About Je’anna’s Screen Time Workshops

Almost all families experience challenges around screen time, and Covid-19 has taken this to a whole new level. Are force, control and imposed limits the only ways to deal with this? In order to come up with real win-win solutions, it’s necessary to understand the underlying needs and feelings involved. This hands-on 3-week series will support you in transforming screen time challenges into opportunities to evolve relationships within your family/SDE setting.

1 – theoretical understanding of how screen time operates within Self-Directed Education.
2 – practical support to tackle real screen time challenges in your family and/or SDE setting.

Week 1 – What is ‘screen time’? What screen time problems does your family have? The 3 core needs of Self-Determination Theory, and how these affect screen time issues.

Week 2 – In what ways/when is screen time useful for Self-Directed Education, and in what ways/when is it harmful? The 6 Optimising Conditions of SDE and how these affect screen time issues.

Week 3 – Modelling, communicating and collaborating effectively to create a family screen-time plan.


Please use the CONTACT page to sign up for webinars and courses or ask for more information.